In the past, most
Americans lived their lives without any emergency plans.
After 9/11, many people began to think about
what they would do if there was a catastrophic event or terrorist attack in
their town.
These contingency plans
included having food and water, batteries and other emergency gear.
Families planned where they would meet and
who would get the children.
These plans
have become necessary due to the current world culture.
Although many of us have these plans in place
for catastrophic events, most of us do not have contingency plans in place for
the more common crisis in our lives.
What would those
who depend on you do if you got hit by a bus, or had a stroke?
What would you do if your parents were unable
to take care of themselves?
These
situations happen every day and most of us do not have a plan in place.
Unfortunately, without a plan, these events
often become a crisis and families end up making rash decisions to deal with
the crisis.
Those who do have a plan in
place are usually able to make better decisions because they have more time, information
and resources.
All of us have preferences for handling
emergencies, our finances, medical decisions, legal matters and end of life
choices.
The problem is that we often do
not discuss them with anyone.
It can be
difficult to
discuss these issues with our families, so often we just avoid the
topic.
Unfortunately, if we don’t
discuss these topics, we won’t have the information necessary to make a well informed
decision.
If you are having a difficult
time getting your loved one to talk about these issues, consider having an independent
third party talk to you and your loved one.
Sometimes a physician, attorney or an
Aging Life Care Professional can be
more effective in discussing these topics because they are considered to be a
professional and there is no emotional history to overcome.
No matter who
leads this discussion, the focus should be on your loved one and how they would
like these preferences carried out.
It
is important to get
specific information now so if the time comes, there will
be no question what your loved one wants you to do.
Some of the topics you should address
include:
1.
Medical
a.
Current medical providers – name and phone
number
b.
Current medical conditions
c.
Current medication(s)
d.
Allergies
2.
Legal
a.
Power of Attorney
b.
Living Will – give a copy to your physician
c.
Will
d.
Trust
e.
Location of legal documents
f.
Verify the people appointed in legal documents
have a copy
3.
End of Life
a.
Feelings about death
b.
Is it important to die at home?
c.
Burial or cremation preferences
d.
Funeral/Memorial preferences – be specific!
4.
Emergency Assistance
a.
Who will be called first/second in the event of
an emergency?
b.
Is there someone local who can assist if family
lives far away?
5. Financial
a.
Location of bank/investment accounts
b.
Location of safe box and keys
c. Location of financial documents
d.
Who is monitoring bank & credit card
statements
Statistically
financial fraud is becoming more prevalent.
Anyone who has a mailbox, writes a check, or has a credit card is a
potential victim.
To protect yourself,
review your bank and credit card statements when they come in and report any
unrecognized activity.
Since elder
adults are particularly vulnerable, it is a good idea to have the person who is
nominated as Financial Power of Attorney or Successor Trustee to monitor these
statements as well.
Financial fraud
comes in many forms, so keep track of your finances and be careful who has
access to your financial information.
Once you have the
information, share it with anyone who could be responsible for making these decisions.
If you are geographically distant from your
loved one, look for a
local resource to be available for emergencies.
A local
Aging Life Care Professional can be
an invaluable resource in putting together a
contingency plan.
The Life Care Professional not only knows the
local resources, but often can be available on an emergency basis to get things
stabilized while family is in route.
The
Life Care Professional can also take a proactive roll, making recommendations
to help prevent potential crisis or monitoring unstable situations.
Whether you work
with a Life Care Professional or do it yourself, take the time to put a
contingency plan in place.
It will give
you and your loved one a peace of mind knowing you have a plan in place for an
emergency.
You may never need it, but it
is good to know it is there if you do!