I remember the stress this decision placed on my grandmother. She was afraid of making the wrong choice; she was concerned her children would not support her choice; she was afraid to choose. The doctors wanted an answer, so my grandmother went home from the hospital and vowed to come back in the morning with an answer. Fortunately for my grandmother, she never had to tell anyone what she decided. My grandfather passed away in the wee hours of the morning before my grandmother returned. I think it was a blessing that she did not have to choose.
Years later, my grandmother said it was the hardest choice she ever had to make. To this day, I still don’t know what she decided. What I do know is that after my grandfather’s funeral, my grandmother met with their attorney and had a Living Will drafted. She told her children that she did not want them to have to go through the same thing that she did when my grandfather was ill.
-Heather Frenette, RN,MSN, CMC
Professional Care Manager in Arizona